Infidelity often causes profound damage to trust within a marriage, but many couples are unprepared for the additional trauma that can occur when important details emerge years later. In this Newsweek “What Should I Do?” column, I respond to a husband struggling not only with the pain of his wife’s affair, but with the emotional impact of learning—more than a decade later—that he had not been told the full truth. The situation highlights an important reality about betrayal trauma: healing typically requires more than simply allowing time to pass. Rebuilding trust after infidelity often depends on both partners’ willingness to engage honestly with what happened, to understand the emotional and relational context surrounding the affair, and to tolerate difficult but necessary conversations about hurt, accountability, and repair. These themes remain deeply relevant for couples attempting to recover from long-standing breaches of trust within otherwise enduring relationships.
Link to Article: https://www.newsweek.com/wsid-husband-wife-relationship-cheating-affair-1789817
Published 04/01/2023 in Newsweek: My Wife Has Been Cheating on Me for 12 Years—What Should I Do?